Face the fear.
Every morning I go for a walk with my dog Geoffrey around Hollingworth Lake - for those that don't know I live in a little village at the foot of the Pennines and I am lucky enough to call this beautiful place home. I used to walk past this same bridge when I was a little girl, My mum used to tell me that there were trolls under this bridge and would often dare me to go over it, She would repeat the words from the three billy goats gruff. Trip, trap, trip, trap went the bridge, who's that tripping over my bridge. Then I would take the deep breaths I needed to give me the courage to run over the troll bridge. I remember so clearly the feelings I had before taking on this huge challenge I had been set. I would force myself to be brave enough to do something that seemed utterly terrifying and although I was frightened and worried about what might happen if I dared cross the big nasty trolls bridge you know what? I did it anyway. I took that huge leap of faith and I made it to the other side of the bridge, There I was laughing and giggling, jumping up and down with excitement that I had made it to the other side unscathed. Woohooo I was as strong as Sheerah and that troll had nothing on me!
This got me thinking! Why do we stop taking risks when we get grown up? At what point do we stop being so daring?
I want you to visualize yourself as being just 8 years old - What would you want for that that little girl/boy, Would you want them to go for it? Would you tell them that their dreams of becoming a Rock Star, Vet, Doctor, World Traveler, Life Coach, Actress, Singer would never come true or would you want to show that if they want something bad enough that they can absolutely achieve anything they want to!
What do you want for the 8 year old you?
You really can achieve anything that you put your mind too, and if that little monkey in your brain is telling you that this is not true then you tell him to stop it right now! It is true YOU really can achieve anything you want to do. I know that facing the fear can sometimes be really scary, I also know that it is absolutely 100% worth taking the risk for! If you are scared of taking that first step then I can highly reccomend the book Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway Book by Susan Jeffers
It is awesome!
Why take a risk
Risk gives you an opportunity to open up to your talents, interests, abilities and dreams. Go for it, take that risk the odds are better than you think and if you get all scaredy cat remember that 8 year old - what would you want for them?
I regularly get emails from students who want to leave there full time jobs to start work as a professional therapist! My advice to each and every one of them is to go for it! Follow your dreams - somebody once told me that If you do a job you love then you never have to work a day in your life. And you know what? It is true! What I love about my job the most is watching everyday people studying to do something that they are so passionate about, Courses on the go is perfect for anyone looking into changing there career - We have over 20 holistic therapy courses for you to choose from and each one has the option of being a career package. When you purchase the career package you will receive a fully IPHM accredited and insurable certificate meaning you can absolutely work for your self doing something you love - join 1000's of other students who now work for themselves, pick their own hours and are changing the world the world every single day!
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So today I want to talk about self care, After a conversation with my mum on the way to meditation class last night I have made the decision to treat myself like a plant! Now before you close down this page thinking what a crazy lady she is, I'd love you to hear me out!
We all could use a reminder to take a little time for ourselves right? So my suggestion to you today is to love and care for yourself as you would a small plant that sits on your windowsill. Now I never got the whole caring for your plants thing and used to think my mum was a little crazy, she used to leave all the house plants in the bath with soft music playing for them, Well it turns out she isn't actually that crazy and infact playing music to plants actually works -, it is something to do with the vibrations created by the sound waves. In simple terms, the vibrations produce movement in the plant cells, which stimulates the plant to produce more nutrients.
Your mind is like a garden and you are the gardener!
If you want to have a beautiful garden, then you have to take care of it regularly. You are the only person who chooses what kinds of plants, fruits, and crops to grow in your garden. You can choose to either cultivate a beautiful and abundant garden, or a wasteland of weeds and rotten fruit. It is the same thing with your mind, If you want to have a beautiful mind, you need to take care of it regularly. Bach Flower remedies have been known to be of great benefit.
Plant the right seeds and regularly wipe out the weeds - What seeds are you planting?
We often forget to take care of our minds in a world so concerned with body. Your mind is beautiful and wonderful and unique, but it needs to be taken care of.
Take time to nurture it.
Here is a list of things that I now regularly do to nurture my soul:
“Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and our experience.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Three steps to stop anxiety taking you over
Mental Health Issues are on the rise and youngsters and teenagers are suffering to such an extent that statistics state that currently at least 1 in 5 young people now suffer from some form of mental illness, that’s a staggering 20% of the population. In the UK only 4% of the complete health care budget is actually spent on our mental health. No matter how young or old you are anxiety does not discriminate and can take over your life and happiness. Following some simple steps that you can learn in minutes but use at any time is a great tool to have on hand.
What to do if having an anxiety attack - If you or someone you know would like to overcome intense emotions like anxiety, fear, stress, anger and panic attacks, them follow these practical breathing techniques.
Below is a simple technique, which helps us focus on the present moment and relieve us from all intense and distressing emotions, especially anxiety. It is simple, but requires work and dedication to sustain it. It works by activating the body’s parasympathetic nervous system, to relive the anxiety and obliterate the thought process that keep us primed and locked. It can help you to intentionally change your inner states, and gain some mastery over them. The sympathetic nervous system is stimulated under stress, anxiety, fear and anger. It speeds up our heart rate, breathing and prevents digestion, keeping us tense, aroused and fearful. This also triggers negative feelings like anxiety or anger. Mindfulness activities such as ‘focussed-breathing’ stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system - bringing down our arousal levels, breathing and heart rates. Allowing us to relax the muscles, overcome the sense of anxiety, slow down our thoughts and find a more restful state of being.
"Mindfulness is not a magic trick"
Mindfulness is it a complicated set of techniques mastered by experts. It is merely something, which requires some effort and practice, to develop in our everyday lives, not something you need to fret about. Let me give you an example:
Once you’ve settled, continue breathing normally before choosing your moment of reflection. Then, in the gap between the in-breath and the out-breath ask yourself this, 'what is happening to me now?' Try to remain with your embodied experience, physical sensations and emotions, rather than your thoughts. This will keep you in the present moment, staying with sensations as they arise and pass.
For Future stress attacks
Repeat this every so often, and just notice without judgement or intolerance, what happens. Do not judge emotion or sensation as either good or bad, simply observe them. Allow yourself to experience your present state of being. Do not try to grasp it or hold onto it, just let it pass. Try to understand that nothing is permanent; that all things come to pass and change. Even intense emotions.
You really can regulate how you feel without needing to control it or avoid feelings. At first, this practice may feel a little disorienting, or you might find yourself getting tangled up with distracting thoughts. Don’t worry. In time, if you persevere and focus on your breathing, you will begin to allow wayward thoughts to pass and remain focussed on a unified sense of experience as you breathe - somewhere between reflection and bodily sensation. Do not expect any sense of euphoria or enlightenment; just enjoy the simple gift of time and space to be – having a moment to yourself without suffering.
What Can Holistic Counselling help with?
You may find your self dealing with many aspects of a personality and Holistic counselling can help with a large variety of issues, below are just some of the problems that you may find yourself dealing with.
• Anger Management
• Assertive issues
• Communication problems
• Grief Bereavement
• Guilt and shame issues
• Personal Growth
• Relationship issues
• Self confidence
• Sexual Abuse
• Spiritual direction
If you are interested in counselling or considering taking courses in counselling then the complete Counselling career package includes - Holistic Counselling - NLP & Life coaching on all in one package.
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